92 Mindset, behaviours and results
Mindset, behaviours and results
Cookie Lee
“This is too hard”, “Of course he knows, he is smart”. Have you heard or said something like this before? Things being too hard or you not being smart enough, if these are really the factors getting in our way to achieving our goals, then how come someone else with similar abilities can achieve theirs? It seems that these are only excuses that prevent a person from developing his/her own thoughts, beliefs or seeing himself/herself positively. Those who believe that intelligence and talent cannot be changed will never improve. However, those who believe that they can achieve their goals and that their efforts are valued, they can learn from mistakes and feedback received.
When facing all sorts of challenges, if we can change our mindset, then our behaviour can be changed as well. Please don’t get me wrong. Things won’t become better only by hoping. We have to put in effort to make it happen. It is important to create a plan B if plan A ever fails. But then how do we create a plan B? In this case, we have to learn some problem-solving techniques. When carrying out a science experiment, a fair test is usually introduced. The concept of a fair test can be applied when creating solutions. We have to know what the outcome is and what possible factors there are. By evaluating the cause of failure in plan A, we can then apply what we have learnt from plan A and implement changes in plan B. Other possible ways to create a plan B include asking for advice or getting the right person in the room when planning.
Practice makes perfect. Is this statement true? This mindset focuses on perfection. It seems to imply that if we could not achieve the goal we set, then all the efforts that we put in would be wasted. How about a change to “practice makes progress”, but not perfection? The focus of this mindset is the progress we made every day. Our efforts are valued.
Life is not a battle to win, but a melody to sing. Sometimes, if we consider everything a competition, we may push ourselves to two extremes, either winners or losers. This kind of thinking may stop us from trying as we want to avoid failure, and at the same time, we may be threatened by the success of others. Change your mindset from “a battle to win” to “a melody to sing” may sound more encouraging. Do give it a try! It is also easier for us to accept that we can learn from others and be inspired by others’ success.
By developing each other's growth mindset together, we can help change the final outcome. Why not give yourself a chance to experience a different way of thinking the differences?